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Musician

"Musicians are the world’s natural mediators—they listen before they play, harmonize discordant notes, and create unity from diversity. Where words divide, music connects."
— Yo-Yo Ma

What is Conflict Coaching
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I am a musician and I help intercultural leaders and executives to manage conflicts so that they can make peace with themselves and with others.

- Selana Kong
 

Imagine crossing a bridge. The bridge is designed to hold you from place to place.

 

My bridge is designed to carry you from inner peace to cohesive relationships so that you can safely navigate the orgnaisational, social and cultural waters. 

Step 2: Compassionate Curiosity

Tool: Story of My Hero 

Step 3: Innovation

Tool: Power of My Mind

My Method

My coaching approach is authentic and creative. I help you make peace with yourself so that you can deal with others more easily. This will enable you to have deeper dialogue and get your collaboration back on track. 

 My Coaching Model - The PIN Model 

I integrated my leadership, coaching, mediation and corporate governance experiences and created my own coaching model called the 'PIN' model. 

It has been published in the Coaching Perspectives Magazine of the Association for Coaching in 2024. 

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Conflict Coaching

Conflict Coaching is a 1-to-1 coaching process that helps you find the best solutions to resolve a conflict with the support of a coach.

Conflicts are always systemic and it often starts from your interal conflicts with yourself. For example, you want to have more autonomy while you also want the benificence of your board. In this scenerio, a coach can help you priorities your higher purpose and decide what course of action is for your best interest.

Next is internpersonal conflicts arise from you having conflicting priories and preferences with others. The human minds, if unaware, people often attributes faults and blame to the other side's charater flaws rather than reflecting first what one has done to create the conflict in the first place. A coach can help you see the whole picture and empowers you to take actions to resolve the conflict without relying on the other side to change first. This often improves the situation quickly becasue people are usually reciprical when they notice change in behaviour and attitudes towards them. 

Team conflicts can happen as a result of he lack of team agreement, which can be easily resolved by having clear and explicit team norms and agreement put in place. However, real team conflict can be quite difficult to resolve the help of a team coach, especially if the team leader cannot see how he/she is part of the problem. 

Orgnisational conflicts can arrive from many things and one of the common root sources is the lack of good governance. A coach with a deep understand of corporate governance can guide you to define key issues from all levels of the organisation and find most effective solutions for leaders that otherwise could be easily missed. 

About Selana

Qualifications

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Stories Behind Selana Kong

Conflict Coaching Mediation 

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Environmental and Social Governance Certificate

Corporate Governance Institute

Corporate Governance Diploma

Corporate Governance Institute

Team Coaching

- Institute of Continued Education University of Cambridge

Program On Negotiation

Harvard Law School

Accredited International Professional Mediator

International Dispute Resolution and Risk Management Institute

Accredited Relational Dynamic Coach

 Performance Coach Training and Relational Dynamics 1st

Member & Regional Coordinator

-Association for Coaching

International Accreditated Professional Mediator

and UK Centre Managing Director

- International Dispute Resolution and Risk Managemnt Institute

Hong Kong Fellow

- Clore Leaderhiship Programme 

Visiting Researcher

- Arts and Humanities Rearch Council,

University College of London

Master of Education

- Monash Univeristy

Bachelor of Musical Arts

- University of Western Ontario

Business and Administrative Studies

University of Western Ontario

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Testimonials

Beautiful Landscape

"All these years, I admire how you are. These are the words I use to describe Selana.

Virtue

Graceful

Kind

Gentle but strong

(oh so strong) 

And she can always carry a perspective above this world."

— AK, IT Programme Manager

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“The image you portrait is a bridge... closing the gap, balance and sound structure”

— SL, Music Educator

“I believe you will do amazing wherever you are and you will continue to light up the life of anyone you meet. ”

—  HA, Teacher & Animator

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"Thank you for your active and vibrant energy to help move things forward. You always have some practical info on hands! "

— KC, Mediator & Administrator

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I really enjoyed our conversation. Thank you so much for your input and I look forward to being mentored by you. 

— HE, Educator, Administrator, Coach, Mediator

Business Location :

10 Church Street

Llangollen, UK 

LL20 8HY

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Contact

+44 7759712383

+852 94483507 

 

 

selana.kong@gmail.com

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Business Address: 

Unit 7, The Malthouse Business Centre,  Regent Street, Llangollen 

LL20 8HS

Selana Kong

 

 

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On Transitions

Find out more about strategies to make your career fulfilling and secure

How Versatile Are You? 

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On Dispuate Resolution

Conflict happens. Find out how you can manage on your own and with support from others.

How to Negotiate In a Low Trust Relationship

Why Negotiation is an Art? 

Can You Be Trusted ? 

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