"Musicians are the world’s natural mediators—they listen before they play, harmonize discordant notes, and create unity from diversity. Where words divide, music connects."
— Yo-Yo Ma

What is Conflict Coaching

I am a musician and I help intercultural leaders and executives to manage conflicts so that they can make peace with themselves and with others.

- Selana Kong

Imagine crossing a bridge. The bridge is designed to hold you from place to place.

My bridge is designed to carry you from inner peace to cohesive relationships so that you can safely navigate the orgnaisational, social and cultural waters.

Step 2: Compassionate Curiosity

Tool: Story of My Hero

Step 3: Innovation

Tool: Power of My Mind

My Method

My coaching approach is authentic and creative. I help you make peace with yourself so that you can deal with others more easily. This will enable you to have deeper dialogue and get your collaboration back on track.

My Coaching Model - The PIN Model

I integrated my leadership, coaching, mediation and corporate governance experiences and created my own coaching model called the 'PIN' model.

It has been published in the Coaching Perspectives Magazine of the Association for Coaching in 2024.

Conflict Coaching

Conflict Coaching is a 1-to-1 coaching process that helps you find the best solutions to resolve a conflict with the support of a coach.

Conflicts are always systemic and it often starts from your interal conflicts with yourself. For example, you want to have more autonomy while you also want the benificence of your board. In this scenerio, a coach can help you priorities your higher purpose and decide what course of action is for your best interest.

Next is internpersonal conflicts arise from you having conflicting priories and preferences with others. The human minds, if unaware, people often attributes faults and blame to the other side's charater flaws rather than reflecting first what one has done to create the conflict in the first place. A coach can help you see the whole picture and empowers you to take actions to resolve the conflict without relying on the other side to change first. This often improves the situation quickly becasue people are usually reciprical when they notice change in behaviour and attitudes towards them.

Team conflicts can happen as a result of he lack of team agreement, which can be easily resolved by having clear and explicit team norms and agreement put in place. However, real team conflict can be quite difficult to resolve the help of a team coach, especially if the team leader cannot see how he/she is part of the problem.

Orgnisational conflicts can arrive from many things and one of the common root sources is the lack of good governance. A coach with a deep understand of corporate governance can guide you to define key issues from all levels of the organisation and find most effective solutions for leaders that otherwise could be easily missed.